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MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend Kindle Edition

by Rachel Bertsche (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
3.8 out of 5 stars 435 ratings
When Rachel Bertsche first moves to Chicago, she’s thrilled to finally share a zip code, let alone an apartment, with her boyfriend. But shortly after getting married, Bertsche realizes that her new life is missing one thing: friends. Sure, she has plenty of BFFs—in New York and San Francisco and Boston and Washington, D.C. Still, in her adopted hometown, there’s no one to call at the last minute for girl talk over brunch or a reality-TV marathon over a bottle of wine. Taking matters into her own hands, Bertsche develops a plan: She’ll go on fifty-two friend-dates, one per week for a year, in hopes of meeting her new Best Friend Forever.

In her thought-provoking, uproarious memoir, Bertsche blends the story of her girl-dates (whom she meets everywhere from improv class to friend rental websites) with the latest social research to examine how difficult—and hilariously awkward—it is to make new friends as an adult. In a time when women will happily announce they need a man but are embarrassed to admit they need a BFF, Bertsche uncovers the reality that no matter how great your love life is, you’ve gotta have friends.
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    20 Dec. 2011
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Bertsche's skill as a writer and the myriad ways she finds potential dates keep things interesting.... The book is also peppered with intriguing research on topics like what makes friends click, how many friends we need and the health benefits of having friends.... A reader cannot help but root for Bertsche, cheer her successes and consider trying out some of her ideas. --Associated Press

Friendship is one of the most important elements of a happy life but it can be tough to make new friends. In MWF Seeking BFF, Rachel Bertsche weaves together her engaging and often hilarious adventures in search of a new best friend with the latest research about the science of friendship. I couldn t put it down. --Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

About the Author

Rachel Bertsche is a journalist in Chicago, where she lives with her husband. Her work has appeared in Marie Claire, More, Teen Vogue, Every Day with Rachael Ray, Fitness, Women's Health, CNN.com, and more. Before leaving New York (and all her friends) for the Midwest, Bertsche was an editor at O: The Oprah Magazine.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B004W3IDM8
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Ballantine Books
  • Accessibility ‏ : ‎ Learn more
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ 20 Dec. 2011
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 1.5 MB
  • Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
  • Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 386 pages
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0345524959
  • Page Flip ‏ : ‎ Enabled
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    3.8 out of 5 stars 435 ratings

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Rachel Bertsche is a journalist in Chicago, and the best-selling author of MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, Marie Claire, More, Teen Vogue, Every Day with Rachael Ray, Fitness, Women's Health, CNN.com, and more. Before leaving New York for the Midwest, Bertsche was an editor at O: The Oprah Magazine.

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Customers appreciate the book's intelligence, with one noting it is reasonably well researched and another mentioning it is a good read for socially inept individuals.

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  • LondonWinter2018
    5.0 out of 5 stars Cute and inspirational
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 17 October 2013
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    I read this book at the perfect time; the difficulties and worries of not having friends in a (not totally) new city the author encountered match my own. the writing style is cute and funny enough to keep reading but fact based enough to help you to understand why finding friends is tough and what it takes to change things around...Im planning to start my own quest very soon!
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  • matchstick legs
    4.0 out of 5 stars American. BFF is about the author's search for a spontaneous friend
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 12 October 2017
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    Interesting book about a quest for a spontaneous friend. Easy to read and well written.
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  • Sarah F
    3.0 out of 5 stars Not as good as I would have liked.
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 7 May 2013
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    Despite the fact that I really wanted to engage with and be inspired by this book it just didn't click with me in the way I had imagined it would.

    The story of the author's successes and failures in the realms of "friend-dating" felt almost clinical and lacking in heart at times. While I could on occasion sympathise with her I don't feel that there was enough of her character and personality coming through in the book.

    In some ways there was too little detail about the friend-dates (too little amusement at dates-gone-wrong and too little rejoicing at the ones which went right) which left the book lacking colour and made the friend-date formula feel quite repetitive. The feeling of repetition was going to be difficult to avoid as there was one "friend-date" for each week of the year but it didn't feel like the writer and/or her editor had worked hard enough to create the colour and interest which would have rendered this repetition less noticeable.

    I don't know whether part of the problem was that this was originally a blog and the story hasn't been stitched together and fleshed out enough from the original posts. Either way, I didn't feel like I was rooting for her, which was a shame.

    Okay but not amazing
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  • Dana Jerling
    5.0 out of 5 stars Good read for the socially inept like me
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 27 August 2013
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    This book is a revelation. A look at friendship through experience and science explaining things I thought everyone but me knew. It's been a great talking piece with my friends and family as well as personally thought provoking for me

    I can't recommend this book enough!
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  • Charlotte Steggs
    4.0 out of 5 stars A Book To Identify With
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 1 August 2012
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    I picked this book up on my Kindle after it was recommended to me. It tells of a married woman in America who moves to a new city for her husband, who is searching for new friends.

    The book itself is a mix of anecdotes from her search and the science behind why we think and feel how we do when it comes to friendship. As a girl who has experienced living in new places - new countries - I could really relate to her, and was even encouraged by her search. Her story is easy to read and the science parts make up for the sometimes flat and repetitive tales of the people she meets.

    Though it does get pretty repetitive after a while, I do recommend this book to anyone - man or woman - who would like to make new friends.
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  • Sus de L
    2.0 out of 5 stars Like a teenager story
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 17 July 2013
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    I bought it by mistake, confused with other title.
    Anyway, I read it in full. There are just a few points to highlighted that I mark as it is the only thing to say.
    Seems like an objective for a teenager with no experience in live, even she is married. So, she is not alone. Though does not seem to spend a lot of time with her husband given the purpose of finding a best friend forever.
    I included 2 stars for these few notes relevant, but the book as a whole is not worth it, in terms of contents. I can not judge inhow good is written as I am not an expert.
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  • C. Ball
    5.0 out of 5 stars It certainly inspired me...
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 12 April 2012
    I identified with this book to an almost embarrassing degree, as I suspect do a lot of women who read it. It's tough to make new friends, and it seems harder the older you get. It seems so easy when you're young; you catch another kid's eye in the playground or on the beach or in the park, and within minutes you're friends. At school and later at university so much of life is geared towards the social aspect; it's almost impossible to go through those experiences without making friends.

    I've recently moved back home after a few years away, and I'll admit it, I'm lonely. I've lost touch with a lot of friends who live here, and a lot of others have moved away. I went to boarding school so I never really knew that many people in the immediate environment anyway. And now I've come home and I'm lonely. And this book I think has really inspired me to get out there and try and make those connections, instead of waiting for friendships to magically drop into my lap. As Rachel argues in this book, we don't judge people who go out and actively find dates, who speed-date or online-date. Actively looking for love is socially acceptable - why should actively looking for friendship be any different?

    And I think she's right, most people are flattered when you show interest in them. Very few people would turn down an offer of friendship. It's just a matter of being the first to reach out. So dammit, that's what I plan to do. Starting today, I'm going to get back in touch with some of the friends I've lost touch with and make plans to meet up. Who knows what might happen after that?
    11 people found this helpful
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  • Kindle Customer
    4.0 out of 5 stars an under estimated topic
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on 19 October 2013
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    Well written, funny and intelligent. Reasonably well researched with what could potentially be a how to for those starting up someplace new.
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  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Grand
    Reviewed in the United States on 15 January 2012
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    I am not Rachel Bertsche's target audience, but I work with a lot of potential readers who are. Based on the advance hype, I bought MWF for one of them. The problem is that I started to look at it myself, then I looked a little more and was hooked. I ended up reading every word. I loved it. I know I'm not her target demographic; I loved it anyway.

    It is very well written. Ms. Bertsche has a breezy style that she manages to keep going throughout the book. It is also well paced. Her Grand Quest definitely has an edge of suspense and
    page-turnerness going, which she nurtures brilliantly. It is also well researched. This is a great element which, in addition to helping the pacing, expands the scope way beyond a personal
    journey/marathon/treasure hunt to an exploration of the meaning, nature, value, and science of friendship. Rather grand, really. Different tone than Francis Bacon, but still...

    It is honest without going over the top. Fine line here, but I think she does a fantastic job of putting herself out there without making you cringe. (Actually, maybe that's what the whole year was about.)In the end, although she's theoretically addressing only the issue of finding a BFF, she makes it pretty clear that if you're not overbooked, you ought to get out more. There's a lot waiting for someone willing to go looking.
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  • Robin
    5.0 out of 5 stars I think it would be a good book for my granddaughters to read as they launch ...
    Reviewed in Canada on 23 February 2017
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    Most enjoyable. As a grandfather, I think it would be a good book for my granddaughters to read as they launch into the world.
    It was a great insight into "millennial" priorities for an old guy.
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  • Cinda
    4.0 out of 5 stars Great!
    Reviewed in Canada on 16 May 2014
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    The story is basically what the title leads you to believe. Married White Female seeking Best Friend Forever. The author moves to a city away from her long established group of friends and finds herself missing the "best" friend connection. She goes on 1 friend date a week for a year. The novel is interspersed with research and interesting facts regarding friendship, the way it benefits our lives and how exactly it impacts us day to day and long term. Rachel is funny and relatable and honestly I would truly recommend this novel. Easy to read and hard to put down!
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  • Jessica
    4.0 out of 5 stars I really enjoyed this book
    Reviewed in the United States on 8 February 2015
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    I really enjoyed this book. I'm glad I didn't read the negative reviews before I bought it, because I might have decided not to. As some people have noted, some of the transitions and insertions of research findings seemed abrupt or awkward, but I really liked it. I am also 27 and living in a giant metropolis I didn't grow up in and have been struggling to make social connections, which was what drew me to this book to begin with, and I found a lot of this really easy to relate to. There are people talking about it being a "rich girl whining" but honestly, that wasn't something I noticed at all (and as someone who grew up with no money at all, I tend to be hypersensitive to these things). Maybe the author grew up with money and doing things I didn't get the chance to do (like summer camp) but I think we all have some kind of childhood experience that threw us into close proximity with other people our age that we became friends with out of convenience, and I don't think it has to be a summer camp experience to be able to relate to the idea. From getting over the "playing hard to get" with potential friends to the "friend crushes" on potential friends, I found myself thinking "oh, wow, that's a thing other people do too!" numerous times throughout the book.

    I liked the pacing and I liked the progression of the author as a person. I like the way the book reads, and I'm glad I gave it a chance.
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  • Jen1482
    4.0 out of 5 stars Lighthearted read that will make you smile
    Reviewed in Canada on 26 February 2017
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    This book caught my attention at the cover and title. It's lighthearted and quirky. The premise is interesting dating other woman to find new friends in a new city. I think any woman in their 20's/30's could relate. The book has the story of a year of dates mixed in with facts about friendship. If you are looking for friends this book is a good start, if not, it makes you appreciate the friends you have. Enjoy!
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